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“Marriage” ESL Discussion Questions

I. Wedding Ceremony

1. What happens in a wedding ceremony in your country?
2. Why is it important to have a ceremony when you get married?
3. How do you feel about the wedding process? Do you want a big wedding or small?
4. When was your wedding day?
5. Do you have to have a special license to get married?

II. Marriage Expectations

6. How long should a marriage last?
7. In what ways is marriage different from what you expected it to be like before getting married?
8. What do you think is the most important thing in a marriage?
9. What are the most important things to know about marriage before getting married?
10. What do you think marriage is all about?

III. Love and Relationships

11. Who proposed first, you or your partner?
12. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
13. What do you like about your partner?
14. What is your favorite thing about your spouse?
15. Can you really fall out of love if you’re married?

IV. Marriage Challenges

16. What are the challenges of being married?
17. How often do you argue with your spouse?
18. Is it okay for a married couple to sleep in separate beds?
19. What are some ways to ensure your marriage lasts forever?
20. Do you think the divorce rate is too high?

V. Family and Children

21. If one partner wants children and the other doesn’t, how do they resolve this issue without causing further problems within their relationship?
22. Should partners have similar levels of education and interests when it comes to choosing a life partner? Why or why not?
23. What are the benefits of being married?
24. What do you think makes a good husband or wife?
25. What makes a good spouse?

VI. Personal Reflections

26. How do you feel about marriage?
27. What is a healthy relationship?
28. How do you know if you’re ready to get married?
29. How important is it for a couple to live together before getting married?
30. Why did you get married?

VII. Cultural Perspectives

31. Do you believe in arranged marriages?
32. What do you think of people who get married for the sake of it?
33. Do you agree that marriage is an outdated institution?
34. Who can get married?
35. How long does it take to get divorced in your country?

VIII. Marriage and Friendship

36. Do you believe that men and women can be just friends without having feelings for each other? Why or why not?
37. What do you like about being married?
38. What’s the worst thing that has happened to you since marrying your spouse?
39. What’s the best thing that has happened to you since marrying your spouse?
40. What kinds of things do you like to do with your spouse when things are going well in your relationship?

IX. Marriage and Conflict Resolution

41. What kinds of things do you like to do with your spouse when things aren’t going well in your relationship (if there’s anything)?
42. Is it okay for a couple to take a break from each other?
43. How do you handle conflict in your marriage?
44. What are some ways to communicate better with your spouse?
45. How do you support each other during difficult times?

X. Future of Marriage

46. What do you think the future of marriage will look like?
47. How do you think marriage will change in the next 50 years?
48. Do you think more people will choose to live together instead of getting married in the future?
49. How important do you think marriage will be to future generations?
50. What advice would you give to someone thinking about getting married?

XI. Marriage and Society

51. How does society view marriage today?
52. What role does culture play in marriage?
53. How do different cultures celebrate marriage?
54. What are some common marriage traditions in your culture?
55. How do laws affect marriage in your country?

XII. Personal Growth Through Marriage

56. In what ways has being married changed the way you think about yourself as a person, or about relationships in general?
57. What personal growth have you experienced since getting married?
58. How has marriage influenced your goals in life?
59. What have you learned about love through your marriage?
60. How do you think being married will affect your future?
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